Transitional Choices

Transitions. How do you cope with them? Are you open to the unfamiliar? Or does it scare the hell out of you? Or better yet, do you even acknowledge them?

Life is an ever-evolving series of changes. From year to year, day to day, minute to minute. Some shifts are more conspicuous than others. Seasons changing are inevitably visible. But what about small shifts in our day? Morning to evening is obvious; the sun sets, and our day’s responsibilities adjust. But what about the subtle shifts, like your attitude from your morning commute to finally arriving to work. Or the feelings of an empty stomach, before eating lunch, to the after-math satiation of a meal. And even more to think about: how do your small shifts in attitude or mood affect those around you?

Being affected by others’ variations is relatable. Think about how you feel when a friend or family member is in a bad mood. You probably do not want to be around him or her. You are directly affected by their negativity or hostility. Maybe you inherit that transfer of energy and now you have been inflicted with that contagion. At this point, you have a choice. You have the power to choose whether you will terminate the spread of negativity or continue to afflict others. However, deciding to make this choice is completely dependent on your ability to simply recognize your own attitude. That it exists.

This passage alone has shifted from introducing you to the idea of transitions, to recognizing them, and now to controlling them.  Can you take these ideas and apply them to yourself? As you read this, take a moment to scan your body. What is the quality of your breath like? Is it slow or fast? Deep or shallow? What about your posture? Now, don’t change anything. Just notice it. Do you want to make changes? Will these changes result in something different? How are you feeling today? Are you tired? Are your muscles tense? Are you holding tension in your jaw? The space between your eyebrows? Your fingers? Your toes? Just notice.

Think about the people you have encountered today. Were your interactions positive or negative? Could you have been kinder?

Think about the attitudes you have had today. What has your mood been like? What is your mood like right now? Don’t judge yourself. Just notice it. 

I challenge you to just observe these shifts and alterations. The ebbs and flows of life will continue to advance. Can you take a moment to recognize the implications of these transitions? Can you take the time to consider the adoption of a more conducive mentality?

As you have taken this moment to reflect, you may have felt guilt or shame. You may have regrets in your previous exchanges or actions. Do not judge yourself.

Take a deep breath. Hold it in. Let it go. The past is the past. What happened one minute ago cannot be changed. But, what you do have control over is your next moment. Do you want to choose a different tone to take you along the rest of your day? Make your choice and act. For the moment has now passed.